Grief, what’s the psychology behind grief? Does it affect our brain or not? If it does, then how can a person cope up with it? In the following article, we will be answering all these questions.
Grieving when someone dies is a natural feeling and expression. Grieving helps in oozing out intense sorrow out of our chest which helps in making space. However, if a person doesn’t get over from his/her grieving after a certain period of time, then it can start affecting a person- both internally and externally. Grieving can be harmful to a person- both physically and mentally.
Physical symptoms of grief
The physical symptoms of grief include a number of symptoms which are as follows:
- It can cause a state of tiredness or can make a person feel exhausting which can be overwhelming.
- State of restlessness is the other symptom.
- It is possible that such a person’s appetite gets affected or s/he doesn’t feel any appetite at all.
- Due to long periods of grief, there is a chance of trouble sleeping which may cause loss of sleep or fear in sleeping.
- This can also cause a person is having difficulty with breathing or can make a person vulnerable to anxiety attacks.
- The loss of sleep or appetite can subsequently result in having body pain e.g. Back pain, neck pain or a headache etc.
The neuroscience of grief
Grief or sadness is often viewed as something negative and the myth is prevalent that it should be avoided at all costs. The process of grieving can be lonesome- especially if a person has lost his/her beloved. Normally, even if people can relate still they can’t replicate the feelings since each individual has a unique relationship with the one whom s/he lost.
Most people try to fill their inner void by getting busier in their day to day activities but despite remaining busy all the time, they still find it hard to conquer their inner void or sorrow. Many people consider it a state of laziness or procrastination if a person is unable to find the strength to fight back with his emotions.
However, a German scientist, named as Stefan Klein has made a remarkable note about the connection between grief and sorrow. He says that the prolonged sadness can actually cause a person to meet his/her innermost self. And such a solitude is considered to be something which is desirable.
As much as the above statement is true, the exact opposite of it is also true. Most people cannot cope up with their grief because of the same solitude or loneliness. They feel an extra burden, pressure or stress in their hours of solitude which brings results like restlessness or dazed thoughts or feelings because of the stress hormones.
How to cope up with grief?
The study says that surrounding oneself with good people who can lower your stress level down or the mere touch of whom can ease one’s suffering can be beneficial during the phase when one is trying to overcome some failure or the past memories of beloved who have died or have just broken up with someone after having a long relationship.
However, if there are no good companions then the chances of healing can get low, says study. Because that would combine both the inner and outer stress which can further lead a person towards depressive symptoms.
While all of this seems easy to be done, but in reality when one tries to approach someone nearby, most of the people respond negatively towards one’s emotions- because for them grief cannot prolong for such greater period of time, which is again another misconception.
Grief should be dealt with optimistically. A person should keep trying to replace one’s intense negative emotions with the positive ones. Because researchers say that a person has this capability of reinforcing one’s positive emotions if one does it consciously.
Also, indulging oneself in some healthy activities like sports etc can be helpful in replacing one’s negative emotions with the positive ones.